Buriram Expats
Buriram Province - General Category => Travel forum => Topic started by: Tallguyeric on April 25, 2009, 02:13:59 PM
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Hi! First of all have to say sorry to the admin coz I promise him that I will post my info when I'm back from the trip. Sorry also to my poor english,hope u all understand what I m writing here.
I land on bangkok on the 10th April and have to wait for my gf to finish working in her salon in ekkamai then only can go back to buriram on 11th night.At first,we thought of taking the bus to her hometown but the ticket is already sold out by beginning of April.So no choice, have to take a van back,it was a painful journey from me coz the van pick us up including her sister around 6.30p.m and by the time we reach around prakon chai is almost 10.30a.m plus the van carry almost 15 people including the co and the driver.For your info I'm around 193cm tall,so after I coming down to the prakon chai bus station my leg is very pain and can't even walk.
The driver told me and my gf to take the bus to buriram coz by the time he drop all the remaing passenger to their house,it will be very late for us already coz we will be the last 1 he send us to the hotel.The bus arrive arond 11.10am and
around 12 we reach buriram already.Finally we reach buriram and the admin is already waiting for us.He is very helpful with us for the info.We rent the car from him and finally can rest in the hotel.
After a short rest,my gf got a call from her family asking when we will be going to their house.Therefore we have to rush again out to go back to her place in phalppa chai.Buy the BBQ ingredient then head home to her house,which is about 30 minutes from the town.Meet all her family member and start the dinner.
The next morning have to wake up around 6 am to pick her family up then went for the temple for praying.My gf told me that it is a short praying only.Reach the temple around 7.30am,the monk is just finish eating so have to wait for a while,her family member chatting with monk until around 10 am then finally the praying start.The praying only last 20 minutes.After that send them home and rest back at the hotel.Night time also having dinner at her house.Just discover that the chang beer is so damn cheap,1 carton of 12 bottle is just only 430 bht.
By end of the dinner,suddenly her grandma starting to ask my gf about our plan of marriage,I nad my gf already 3 year together,on and off we will fly to each other to meet up.So tell them that is already planning but not so soon.She
ask for 100k for the dowry but I manage to neg till 75k. Luckily that my gf tell them will save enough money for the dowry only will marry.Her father mention that he will prepare a small praying ceremony plus the food so i no need to pay so much.
The next day,got a call from her friend and ask us to follow up the new of bangkok coz there is some riot in the city.Quite worry,luckily they didn't close the airport.Manage to visit the historic site at phanom rum.Back to her house then we gear up and all the children to town for water war.
The last day just hang on around the town after a long sleep,return the car and head back to bangkok by bus.
So will return to buriram by next year for wedding.By June,my gf will come to stay with me and register & marry in my place.Hope to see u all soon.
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Great report. jumping1
Thanks. welcome1
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Hiya, cool. good report. and she only wanted 100K. :)
I talked to my gf today, and although marriage question has come up before, today was serious talk :mad: As I said how about November for wedding and what was involved. lol She say first I must pay mama/papa 300,000 Baht to marry her :o
Now I know that there is usually some sort of discussion re money, though my g/f has had previous boyfriend pay, she has a 5yr old daughter from first boyfriend. Second boyfriend coughed up money to from what I can understand. She wants me to pay again! yeah do not mind coughing up some money for wedding part etc etc, but 300,000 Baht! SOOOOO I feel that I maybe getting ripped off here! thoughts?
Yep its the old sinsod subject again, sorry admin did look for section but could not find :)
gossip1
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hi marauding scott>i'm a newbie as well>lucky i read a book "Thailand Fever"in thai&english section mentioned if g/f is previously married no dowery expected > i negotited 100000 <to50000bt10 bahdt gold>after 2 3/4 years she either got tired waiting for visa,cold feet,found a more generous sponsor or ?? lawyer advised buy house before marry.
http://www.thailandfever.com (http://www.thailandfever.com) info for westerner marry thai > hope this helps>
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Thailand Fever is a very good book for newbies.
As a farang cannot own land in Thailand, I told my (now) wife she is living in her 'sin sod' so I gave nothing.
I am aware this is not just a farang/Thai arrangement but feel it is outdated and not widespread across Thailand. In many instances the money is all about family 'face' and its secretly
returned to the new couple after the wedding. You need to be aware that in Isaan, they think we have unlimited funds and grow money on tree's. redbite
Think of your future financial commitments because no-one else will. You might also want to mention, that in the western world, it is the custom for the brides family to pay for the wedding thumbup
Happy Negotiations confused4
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Thailand Fever is a very good book for newbies.
As a farang cannot own land in Thailand, I told my (now) wife she is living in her 'sin sod' so I gave nothing.
I am aware this is not just a farang/Thai arrangement but feel it is outdated and not widespread across Thailand. In many instances the money is all about family 'face' and its secretly
returned to the new couple after the wedding. You need to be aware that in Isaan, they think we have unlimited funds and grow money on tree's. redbite
Think of your future financial commitments because no-one else will. You might also want to mention, that in the western world, it is the custom for the brides family to pay for the wedding thumbup
Happy Negotiations confused4
Dave perhaps you could 'mediate'
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As far as I am concerned this is a Thai/Thai custom.
Any Falang who pays sinsot is a half-wit in my book. Makes prostitution look cheap !
Dave the Dude hits the nail on the head when he suggests that 'taking care of our loved ones' involves financing houses and property that we can never own'. Such financial support is adequate enough.
2 observations:- 75,000 Baht is a bloody fortune to a Plapplachai villager, akin to a lottery win or selling 4 rai of village land. Chang at 430 Baht is not cheap, it is the going rate.
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As far as I am concerned this is a Thai/Thai custom.
Any Falang who pays sinsot is a half-wit in my book. Makes prostitution look cheap !
Dave the Dude hits the nail on the head when he suggests that 'taking care of our loved ones' involves financing houses and property that we can never own'. Such financial support is adequate enough.
2 observations:- 75,000 Baht is a bloody fortune to a Plapplachai villager, akin to a lottery win or selling 4 rai of village land. Chang at 430 Baht is not cheap, it is the going rate.
its a package deal!
please answer me why the hell a young sweet girl will marry or even date not to mention LOOK at old guy age 40-70 years old?
maybe because farang look is so damn hot and handsome??!?! get real!!! that's the way it is.
if any of you thinking of playing this attitude you must be dreaming illussing or just pretending you do not understand Way of life in this world.
its like this wherever you will go not only Thailand.
the good thing is that Thai respect money and giving in return great thankful and when the time pass learn to love and live with you.
I have seen some farangs treating really badly to Thai ladies (not working but gf/wifes) just because they hold the money. yes you do have some LIMITED level of power but that's about it.
it does not give you the right to set the rules even when your partner let you THINK YOU SET THE RULES.
How much does your lovely farang Xwife demanded when you lived with her?
How poor were she?
accept it:
you come with money and this is the reason you get a wife/gf the way you want and money just made it happen to you even if you choose to ignore this simple fact.
Its not a bad thing, I even think its a great thing you can afford and be comfortable with.
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This question is about sin sot.
Anybody stupid enough to pay it is an idiot.
Do not confuse my refusal to pay sinsot with a reluctance to financially support my partner. This is my responsibility.
I did it with 2 ex-Falang wives and I am doing it now.
I am getting a better return on my investment now love6
I am, of course, hot and hansum but I understand that if I had not got a pot to piss in then I would have no value to a Thai.
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You will always get those for and those against sin-sod.
I, like others believe that paying sin-sod is akin to prostitution.
Most farangs, are able to provide a lifestyle far better than the wife could ever have dreamed of having with a Thai man - especially for a poor village girl. The parents or guardians should be ecstatic that their daughter will have a good life, and not demand payment for same.
What's the alternative? Marry/live with a Thai man -get pregnant once twice. three times, man runs off with a another girl, and the wife has to go to Pattaya/Bangkok to sell herself to make ends meet. Is that what the parents would prefer, having creamed off perhaps 50,000bt from the Thai man, and seeing their daughter and Thai man live in abject poverty for several years whilst they pay off the loan they took together to pay sin-sod to the greedy f.....g mother! I have seen this happen more than once in my village. The mothers are despicable in my book! In one case we lent a girl 20,000bt to pay off the loan sharks who were charging 20% a month interest - the mother knew and did not care!
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This question is about sin sot.
Anybody stupid enough to pay it is an idiot.
Do not confuse my refusal to pay sinsot with a reluctance to financially support my partner. This is my responsibility.
I did it with 2 ex-Falang wives and I am doing it now.
I am getting a better return on my investment now love6
I am, of course, hot and hansum but I understand that if I had not got a pot to piss in then I would have no value to a Thai.
I tend to agree with buriramboy,
About the "sin sot" (money dowry), its tradition, I of course paid it, I can't go against their tradition as I chose to live here.
But I do think anyone should try identify and understand if the request of "sin sot" is genuine or greed only.
Many times its greed only and it comes of course when have short term relationships the girl try to pull the farang for a "wedding", but when its real long term relationship I don't think there is a reason to go against this tradition.
This tradition has been spread out around the world for thousands of years, its just we the westerns have forgotten it and not applying this tradition practically in the last few decades (IE; the "modern world"?).
BTW, negotiation is acceptable and you can also learn many things on your future family by doing this process.
I do not think you should expect getting your "sin sot" back after the wedding.
Its a big "lose face" and breaking the atmosphere of the wedding of course.
Eventually I think up to 100,000 Baht is acceptable reasonable amount for a "Sin Sot".
After all its to apply the tradition and not greediness!
IMHO, If the family demand/request more than this amount its a red light.
also, connect the "sin sot" issue to other requests/demands the family or girl friend had in the past.
Maybe the "sin sot" amount is big because you have declined other idea/request and the "sin sot" amount is including other things inside.
Good luck with any decision you will make.
Remember, you choose to marry a Thai / live here and in Rome....... sawadi
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blushbar
Cool, thanks for the reply guys, as usual there are those for it, those dead against it and those that have a middle of the road outlook on it. wildman
A BIG sorry "tallguyeric" I did not mean to hijack your posting, But I guess the question of "sinsod" is relevant to you too! smilenod
rethumper, yeah "thailand fever" is a good book, picked it up at the airport on a trip back home last October and had a copy sent to the g/f for her to read! which she did but I think she did not take in what it said but mainly used (and still is) it to improve her english, lol as she could read it in Thai and then see what it said in English. So the clever thought of "hey, send this to g/f and she will understand where I come from more" :D :D :D kind of didn't work, or maybe she understands but ignores.
lol a friend of mine that has lived in Thailand a long long time said the following ------
“ Yesâ€, in Thailand doesn’t mean agreement it means yes, I hear you speaking but don’t really understand your meaning.
Anyway made me chuckle :) Also spoke to my sister-in-law (phee sa-phai) who comes from a village not far from g/f's about this matter. lol She said " dump her, plenty more fish in the sea" should not pay sinsod and if you do should only be small amount 50,000 baht maybe 100,000 if girl not have children from previous relationship and if both are from wealthy families, and she have good education!! anyway sinsod is usually given back to the couple to help start them for their future!
Anyway the discussion continues, g/f said no problem you not worry about it, mama said no problem!
confused4
So could mean
a/ forget about sinsod, you look after me and everything ok? :)
b/ you forget about it, you Falang have plenty money so pay and no worry about it! chairhit
so now none the wiser so will have to see if subject comes up again and see what they say!! confused1
Life with a Thai is always interesting
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You will always get those for and those against sin-sod.
I, like others believe that paying sin-sod is akin to prostitution.
coolbar
lol 300,000 baht, would go a long way for prostitution, lol 1,000 a night plus bar fine 300 strueth, yep pattaya woohoo broccoli1
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You will always get those for and those against sin-sod.
I, like others believe that paying sin-sod is akin to prostitution.
coolbar
lol 300,000 baht, would go a long way for prostitution, lol 1,000 a night plus bar fine 300 strueth, yep pattaya woohoo broccoli1
Even here have better bargains!!! happy1 fighting1
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Dave perhaps you could 'mediate'
I am very sorry to say, I must decline this role, as this months quote if people to annoy has already been met.
Maybe get back to me during August and I will try to fit them up in.
Your rejectingly
DtD
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Dave perhaps you could 'mediate'
I am very sorry to say, I must decline this role, as this months quota of people to annoy has already been met.
Maybe get back to me during August and I will try to fit them up in.
Your rejectingly
DtD
Huh ~~~ sounds like a classic get out to me! confused3
But wot's the problem all farangs have access to unlimited cash ... via the ATM! confused4
Well thats the impression most Thais are under.
TBWG sawadi
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Dave perhaps you could 'mediate'
I am very sorry to say, I must decline this role, as this months quota of people to annoy has already been met.
Maybe get back to me during August and I will try to fit them up in.
Your rejectingly
DtD
Awh DtD, thanks for the thought tho' 8)
Huh ~~~ sounds like a classic get out to me! confused3
But wot's the problem all farangs have access to unlimited cash ... via the ATM! confused4
Well thats the impression most Thais are under.
TBWG sawadi
lol thats how it must seem, Farang put plastic card into ATM and money come out party6
cool O0
anyway during talk time discussion today, above subject came up again!! :o
So I questioned how figure was arrived at, seemingly a neighbours daughter (and distant cousin) got married to a German farang and he paid 300,000 Baht but she was young and a virgin :D and had no children, so I think it has more to do with saving face (or should I dare say, keeping up with the jones's) rolleyesbar
"I say dear, couple next door get 300,000 for there daughter maybe we should see if we can get more! Don't want to be outdone you know, not good show"
Yes I know I should not make fun of a tradition, which is disappearing along with other aspects of rural life, but sometimes it does seem that way! party4
If it was just for show and you could be safe in the knowledge that it would be return to you after ceremony them would be considered. Other wise it could just be taken as "lets see how much we can get from this falang.
You give us 300,000 Baht (£6,000) build house for your new wife 1.5 million Baht (£30,000) buy car/pickup ? suppose close to £50,000 all intold and then when you go home for short holiday its sorry honey me no like you anymore so you no come back thanks sissies
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You are doing the cleverest think IMHO, talking calmly about it eusadance and I am glad you realise the perceptions of 'Face.'
Unlike as was said previously, I have experienced the money given back (to others) and its done on the quiet so 'NO FACE' is lost.
The party people see a ceremony with gold/money being given and that's the end of it.
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You are doing the cleverest think IMHO, talking calmly about it eusadance and I am glad you realise the perceptions of 'Face.'
Unlike as was said previously, I have experienced the money given back (to others) and its done on the quiet so 'NO FACE' is lost.
The party people see a ceremony with gold/money being given and that's the end of it.
You are misleading people about the "Sin Sod" idea.
In MOST CASES "Sin Sod" will not be returned, this is the way it is with THAI and FARANG.
In RARE CASES, where the farang or THAI are trying to keep face - the "Sin Sod" will be returned but NOT TELLING people in the community / village and keep it discreetly inside the family.
sawadi
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You are misleading people about the "Sin Sod" idea.
In MOST CASES "Sin Sod" will not be returned, this is the way it is with THAI and FARANG.
In RARE CASES, where the farang or THAI are trying to keep face - the "Sin Sod" will be returned but NOT TELLING people in the community / village and keep it discreetly inside the family.
sawadi
Agree
In my 9 years in Isaan, I have seen/attended many village weddings, with sin sod from 20,000bt to 300,000bt, and it has NEVER been returned!
This may happen though in Bangkok, where the mothers do not prize money over their daughters happiness.
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elephant027
Aye, its a though one! I am still talking to her about it, though I think she seem a little reluctant to talk about it now! :-X :unsure:
Anyway I will not pressure to much.... Wheres that table lamp, chair and rope I had put aside for some reason! character4
All she says now is "no worry about it, mama say no poblem" so guess just have to go with the flow and see what happens. I am still shocked that she would think she would be of the same value as a young virgin with no kids, she is 30 with a 5 year old and has lived with 2 thai men previously (well thats all she is admitting to at moment) :D :D But guess if you love someone enough they are worth their weight in gold!
mmmmmm more I think about it the less I want to get married now hurhur
character2
Thanks for the feed back. It is always a strange subject sinsod (maybe it should be sod sin) :)
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elephant027
But guess if you love someone enough they are worth their weight in gold!
Fools gold preferably??? smilenod
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I would go for the gold .. party14
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This one paid in US Dollars...... oldmanwithstick
If its not working try the 2nd option. hahaha gossip1
Thai wedding ceremony(dowry) (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WEH4PeJud6Q#)
Tanger 2010 - dismounting a camel.MOV (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bRKmUneLqfs#ws)
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This one paid in US Dollars...... oldmanwithstick
If its not working try the 2nd option. hahaha gossip1
stop1
ok, I am not familiar with US dollars, so they single, fives, tens, twenties, or fifties or even one hundred dollar bills!! I reckon that there is around about 30 on display and maybe 30 to 50 in hand... so could be :-
80 dollars = 2,580 Baht = 54 GBP
400 dollars =12,880 Baht = 265 GBP
800 dollars =25,770 Baht = 530 GBP
1600 dollars =51,536 Baht = 1,062 GBP
4000 dollars =128,840 Baht = 2,655 GBP
8000 dollars =257,680 Baht = 5,310 GBP
(slight fluctation in xchange rate, but get the general Idea! wackobar )
So could look good just gotta be careful on notes used I guess I do have some lovely green Scottish "ONE" pound notes, the blue fives are ok, but do not look the part, the brown tens are very nice indeed, the purple twentys are rare, the red fifties (had some sometime) and the 100's mmmmm had one once. lol last a whole month before I was forced to convert it to Bahts :(
So could be a reasonable cost or an expensive one, You just need some smart alec in the guests who knows there notes! confused1
Anyway think the subject has been pushed to one side for the time being. I will know more when she decides to let me in on the picture! Hohum
confused5 mmm option two!! do you mean get of the camel
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You don't pay sin sod for used goods, ie with childern, previous married or bar girls. period.....
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You don't pay sin sod for used goods, ie with childern, previous married or bar girls. period.....
I believe him(Wildoats) because he has used a lot of goods! giggle thumbup love1 love2 love3
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You don't pay sin sod for used goods, ie with childern, previous married or bar girls. period.....
I believe him(Wildoats) because he has used a lot of goods! giggle thumbup love1 love2 love3
When I get done with them they are ruined for all of mankind..... character1 hahaha bike038 bike037 eusadance
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You don't pay sin sod for used goods, ie with childern, previous married or bar girls. period.....
I believe him(Wildoats) because he has used a lot of goods! giggle thumbup love1 love2 love3
When I get done with them they are ruined for all of mankind..... character1 hahaha bike038 bike037 eusadance
haaaa thats what all men saying after 5 minutes. mhihi
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Hi I just came back from a fun trip to Buriram in april and after 2 months July 1 the gal I was seeing there just stopped writing me, just like she fell off the face of the earth. I am wondering if there is a way someone can contact her for me if I supply her address in Steuk Buriram. She's 43 and I did not think at that age they would be scamming me but I guess that is the case. I did stay with her for almost 10-11 days and we had a lot of fun in Pattaya and the Royal River hotel on the River of Kings, went to see the Grand Palace, also China town, and visited the old temple ruins in North east Thailand as well as the elephant sanctuary near Steuk, she introduced me to her family that lived near the Buriram airport, also to her sisters that lived in Pattaya and BKK and her daughter is starting university. So I helped with some money for the daughter but nothing outrageous. Not sure why she decided to stop all contact with me. I have been nothing but good to her and I think she may need to realize that other farangs may not treat her as well as I do. Even saw and had dinner with her boss there. So I am kinda confused here and thinking that maybe I was scammed and if it was she played a very very good game. I do want her to know that i am still hoping that she changes her mind but know that this is a very slim slim chance but nothing ventured and nothing gained right. If anyone has an idea how I can contact her now I would appreciate it. I do have her home address and where she works. Thanks for any info you might provide for me.
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I am wondering if there is a way someone can contact her for me if I supply her address in Steuk Buriram. She's 43 and I did not think at that age they would be scamming me but I guess that is the case.
They will scam at any age, after all Farang have plenty of money so no problem! blinkbar
I did stay with her for almost 10-11 days and we had a lot of fun in Pattaya,
punk Did you meet in Pattaya? or somewhere else!
she introduced me to her family that lived near the Buriram airport, also to her sisters that lived in Pattaya and BKK and her daughter is starting university. So I helped with some money for the daughter but nothing outrageous.
sawadi Falang very nice he give me money, cuase he pity me! and he have loads of money so no ploblem!! sawadi
Not sure why she decided to stop all contact with me. I have been nothing but good to her
Did you send her some money in the last two months? or just contact (letters? Phone? sms? internet?)
and I think she may need to realize that other farangs may not treat her as well as I do. Even saw and had dinner with her boss there. So I am kinda confused here and thinking that maybe I was scammed and if it was she played a very very good game. I do want her to know that i am still hoping that she changes her mind but know that this is a very slim slim chance but nothing ventured and nothing gained right. If anyone has an idea how I can contact her now I would appreciate it. I do have her home address and where she works. Thanks for any info you might provide for me.
sadbar It maybe just life m8, I talk to my g/f in Satuek everyday and she is always telling me about thai women and their falang "friends" Seems that quite a few go and visit their thai g/f's and wifes for a month or a few months and then go back to Britain etc etc, and that is when the Thai g/f's have their THAI husbands. B/F's back into their lives!
ohmybar
A lot of Thai women have the impression that ALL falangs are loaded with money, and I suppose it does seem that way, when you compare incomes. A lot of Thai women see, what we would call helping out as we have feelings for them, this cash help as you being genouros and showing gwam jai, being of kind heart. and after all what is that "small" donation that you have given them compared to what you have! A lot may even take it as that you pity them and it is a charitable offering to them!
So its a difficult one but, you have a phone number. Also you must realise that if they do not want to be contacted or found then it will be a difficult one!
bike037 I also feel that us Farangs thumbup should try and stick together here as a lot of us are pouring our hard earned money, and hearts into some of these relationships.
Yep the doubters will raise their flags and quote from the old sayings about meeting a Thai lady and falling in love and give everything up for that exotic female!
But you can bet most if not all of these Thai's stick together and although will not lie to you, just do not tell you the whole story!
lol I will no be in deep deep S""" from g/f lol chairhit
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She met me at the airport and then we went to the Royal River for the night then off to Pattaya to meet her sister there and stayed there for 3-4 days then rented a pickup to drive to Sateuk, stayed there for a few days and then drove back to Royal River to meet the other sister and check out the sights in BKK. Then she and her 2 sisters and daughter saw me off at the airport. The sister actually works at the airport. Like I said I had a great time there and was contemplating retiring there and she told me of her dreams to retire there as well, she also indicated she wanted to go to America to help earn more money before we retire. So you can see why I'm a little confused.
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Hi I just came back from a fun trip to Buriram in april and after 2 months July 1 the gal I was seeing there just stopped writing me, just like she fell off the face of the earth. I am wondering if there is a way someone can contact her for me if I supply her address in Steuk Buriram. She's 43 and I did not think at that age they would be scamming me but I guess that is the case. I did stay with her for almost 10-11 days and we had a lot of fun in Pattaya and the Royal River hotel on the River of Kings, went to see the Grand Palace, also China town, and visited the old temple ruins in North east Thailand as well as the elephant sanctuary near Steuk, she introduced me to her family that lived near the Buriram airport, also to her sisters that lived in Pattaya and BKK and her daughter is starting university. So I helped with some money for the daughter but nothing outrageous. Not sure why she decided to stop all contact with me. I have been nothing but good to her and I think she may need to realize that other farangs may not treat her as well as I do. Even saw and had dinner with her boss there. So I am kinda confused here and thinking that maybe I was scammed and if it was she played a very very good game. I do want her to know that i am still hoping that she changes her mind but know that this is a very slim slim chance but nothing ventured and nothing gained right. If anyone has an idea how I can contact her now I would appreciate it. I do have her home address and where she works. Thanks for any info you might provide for me.
Scammed might be a too strong word canuta. In LOS love and money are interlinked and she probably had a good time thanks to you.
They look at relationships as a business proposition and it is not unheard off for a married lady to 'jump ship' for a free ride. I think you have got to step back and look at the realities. If she has not tried to contact you (assuming that she could??) she has a better option elsewhere or doesn't like you.
Sorry to be blunt but thats how I see it. Move on as there are plenty more Plaa in the Sea
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"Scamming" would, of course, depend on how much cash was paid over during the 10-11 day liaison.
canuta55 has still not answered the question about how they met.
She "picked him up at the airport ". I doubt that was a coincidence - introduced via a third party, Internet ?
It cost me 30,000 Baht for a two week liaison with a girl from Khon Kaen. I considered that to be a fair price, overall, for the services provided.
If canuta55 can say the same then no harm is done - everyone can move on, treating as a pleasant interlude in their respective lives. If he paid more than that, I would put it into the scam category.
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We met online through an online dating site last October, chatted quite a bit and did video at least 3-5 time a week. I waited until I got my passport before I made arrangements to visit Thailand to meet with her and her family. Is it normal for them to state they want to live in the USA if they have no intentions of doing so. I see your point for service rendered etc. My trip there was to find a mate not just go for an intimate holiday. And she knew that as well. So I think scammed is the right word but I wished I knew about the culture a bit more before going there so I can just have no expections. As I did mention I did have a great time visiting the country and seeing Thais up close in the smaller towns. Was not impressed too much by Pattaya. Too commercial for me.
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We met online through an online dating site last October, chatted quite a bit and did video at least 3-5 time a week. I waited until I got my passport before I made arrangements to visit Thailand to meet with her and her family. Is it normal for them to state they want to live in the USA if they have no intentions of doing so. I see your point for service rendered etc. My trip there was to find a mate not just go for an intimate holiday. And she knew that as well. So I think scammed is the right word but I wished I knew about the culture a bit more before going there so I can just have no expections. As I did mention I did have a great time visiting the country and seeing Thais up close in the smaller towns. Was not impressed too much by Pattaya. Too commercial for me.
I am sure she really wants to go to the US, a lot of them do. Not a scam, as DtD and CC says a way of life here.
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I also agree that it was NOT a scan - unless significantly higher sums of money passed hands.
As we are aware many ladies are just looking for husbands and a new/better lifestyle.
One girl I emailed a few years back, in her FIRST email said how her son was looking forward to having a new Papa and that he wanted a new brother or sister !! They can be quite direct in expressing what they are looking for.
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Well I thank you guys for your input on this. It just was so much time was invested in this relationship and I wish I knew sooner that something like this would happen, the weird part of it was that she had just email some pics of a trip she took with her co-workers then decided to drop all communications at that point, just confuses the heck outta me. I guess I was hoping someone in Sateuk would pay her a visit to champion my cause but I feel it may be a fruitless exercise. She live close to the temple by the river in Sateuk and works in a building across the street from the same temple. I really was looking forward to retiring there but who knows. Maybe another gal will pique my interest there. If any of you guys or your Thai wives know of a nice gal there looking maybe you can send her my way.
Thanks again for the input.
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Well I thank you guys for your input on this. It just was so much time was invested in this relationship and I wish I knew sooner that something like this would happen, the weird part of it was that she had just email some pics of a trip she took with her co-workers then decided to drop all communications at that point, just confuses the heck outta me. I guess I was hoping someone in Sateuk would pay her a visit to champion my cause but I feel it may be a fruitless exercise. She live close to the temple by the river in Sateuk and works in a building across the street from the same temple. I really was looking forward to retiring there but who knows. Maybe another gal will pique my interest there. If any of you guys or your Thai wives know of a nice gal there looking maybe you can send her my way.
Thanks again for the input.
Every Thai wife has friends looking for farang.........put your seat belt on...... clap
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Well I thank you guys for your input on this. It just was so much time was invested in this relationship and I wish I knew sooner that something like this would happen, the weird part of it was that she had just email some pics of a trip she took with her co-workers then decided to drop all communications at that point, just confuses the heck outta me. I guess I was hoping someone in Sateuk would pay her a visit to champion my cause but I feel it may be a fruitless exercise. She live close to the temple by the river in Sateuk and works in a building across the street from the same temple. I really was looking forward to retiring there but who knows. Maybe another gal will pique my interest there. If any of you guys or your Thai wives know of a nice gal there looking maybe you can send her my way.
Thanks again for the input.
Every Thai wife has friends looking for farang.........put your seat belt on...... clap
Hi Canuta
Bring a big stick to fight them off! confused4
TBWG
PS Check your e mails!
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Put a photo of your self up here so we can bait the traps thumbup
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Well another one finds out the hard way..........Having just read Canutas story,,,I find it difficult to believe there are still so many idiots about.......I could go on & on ........
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Well another one finds out the hard way..........Having just read Canutas story,,,I find it difficult to believe there are still so many idiots about.......I could go on & on ........
but nookie, there are still peps out there that have not become Thai wise! Theres even peps that have never been to Thailand before bravo1
hell I still feel that I get caught every so often, usually after a few beers and forgetting where I am at the time. or end up a sucker for a beautiful face.
Hell may even be in the process of being suckered again! lol wildman
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Well another one finds out the hard way..........Having just read Canutas story,,,I find it difficult to believe there are still so many idiots about.......I could go on & on ........
Hey Nookie
I agree with you but its easy to get carried away.
If I had not come to Thailand about 25 years with the then wife and kids, I could easily see me arriving in Bangkok alone and fresh off the plane being like a kid in a candy store, having a few beers and probably ending up with my hand in a katoey's pants! nono
With the benefit of hindsight everything is a lot easier, the alternative is doing b****r all and then thinking 'what if' forever after.
I suppose the moral is be wary & realistic but most importantly initially stay sober!
TBWG sawadi
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Hi I just came back from a fun trip to Buriram in april and after 2 months July 1 the gal I was seeing there just stopped writing me, just like she fell off the face of the earth. I am wondering if there is a way someone can contact her for me if I supply her address in Steuk Buriram. She's 43 and I did not think at that age they would be scamming me but I guess that is the case. I did stay with her for almost 10-11 days and we had a lot of fun in Pattaya and the Royal River hotel on the River of Kings, went to see the Grand Palace, also China town, and visited the old temple ruins in North east Thailand as well as the elephant sanctuary near Steuk, she introduced me to her family that lived near the Buriram airport, also to her sisters that lived in Pattaya and BKK and her daughter is starting university. So I helped with some money for the daughter but nothing outrageous. Not sure why she decided to stop all contact with me. I have been nothing but good to her and I think she may need to realize that other farangs may not treat her as well as I do. Even saw and had dinner with her boss there. So I am kinda confused here and thinking that maybe I was scammed and if it was she played a very very good game. I do want her to know that i am still hoping that she changes her mind but know that this is a very slim slim chance but nothing ventured and nothing gained right. If anyone has an idea how I can contact her now I would appreciate it. I do have her home address and where she works. Thanks for any info you might provide for me.
Hi Canuta... I'm Funn live not so far from Stuek,,,sad for you when I read this... I think, I know how you feel..... and I would like to help you...please give me her Address I will go there and ask her for you.... Greeting...Funn elephant027
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Hi Funn, Sorry for the delayed response. Just came back here and saw this reply. You are such a nice gal and thanks for volunteering in this but it appears she chose to do this so I have decided I would move on and I have. I spoke to her friend and she still doesn't understand her rationale on this and wishes I come back there but as I said..I have moved on. I've met another gal who is extremely honest with me and I will be visiting in the next year. So thanks again for offering, you're so sweet. Be well always
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Well one way or another you have moved on,,,,,,,,All The Best for the Future,,,Tread Carefully
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Hi Funn, Sorry for the delayed response. Just came back here and saw this reply. You are such a nice gal and thanks for volunteering in this but it appears she chose to do this so I have decided I would move on and I have. I spoke to her friend and she still doesn't understand her rationale on this and wishes I come back there but as I said..I have moved on. I've met another gal who is extremely honest with me and I will be visiting in the next year. So thanks again for offering, you're so sweet. Be well always
Thank you for your nice comment Canuta...and you are really welcome....I wish you all the best...and enjoy your holiday