Buriram Expats
Buriram Province - General Category => Introduction => Topic started by: Adam on November 24, 2010, 06:31:02 PM
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Hey everyone,
Just joined today, I've lived in Lalomweng for 10 years (on the border of Buriram and Surin provinces), since I married my wife.
I'm 43 from the UK and work as a Safety Instructor on Cruise Ships (Princess Cruises), teaching fire fighting, lifeboat driving and all aspects of safety management on ships.
Although I have lived in the area for 10 years, dont socialise too much (in the country for 4 months a year, 8 months on ships). I dont drink too much these days and my wife is finally pregnant. But the problem always was that my wife doesnt seem to get on with other thais married to farangs, I dont know why......is this normal???? :blink:
All the best Adam
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Sorry to say but it is normal. They are afraid of competition. confused1 Try to make contact with other farangs when you are in the town. Go to have something to eat at midday at some of the farang restaurants in Buriram or Surin towns. smilenod
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I agree wth the jealousy answer as some Farang's wives love to flaunt their new found riches (from 'rich' Farang) to all the other wives they meet. The "I have more than you"-type of thing, or "Whats wrong, why no baby ?" . Some can be bitchy like that, but not all. I know it still pisses my wife off when we go back to Thailand (We live in Ireland now).
But there is another possible reason.
Sorry to be a pessimist, ... but there is also the possibility that one (or more) of those Thai ladies may not be telling their Farang husband the whole truth and don't want to be around more honest wives that might let the cat of the bag ... ... no offence meant, but it does happen. I am constaintly shocked by the stories I hear some 'wives' tell my missus when we are over there on hols... I really think that all farang husbands should learn some thai even if its just enough to listen out for key words, Pua Noi, etc, etc.
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I know what you mean guys, but my missus is a good un and she really hated all of the showing off of the "Hi So wives". Most of whom were only girlfriends and were soon replaced haha!
She tells me the stories of other farang wives as well, they seem to be obsessed with playing cards and giving money to their Thai boyfriends.
But I stay out of it all, just keep myself to myself, though when I finally retire (20 years or more to go yet) it would be nice to have some farang friends.
As I learnt from the Filipino guys on the ships I work on, I keep several dogs, when I come home, if they dont bark at everyone who comes to the gate, it means somebody has been waggle daggling while I'm away. Pleased to say all my dogs are still mean....they even bark at me!!!!!!!!
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competition between the ladies. ho yes. swordfight
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Adam, I'm glad to see you are clued in. I didn't mean to make any insinuations, but as you know there are some terrible gold-diggers out there with some very naive (or constaintly drunk) husbands. Glad to see you are not one of them.
If you are near Buriram and you are looking for a nice place to socialise I would recommend Paddys Irish Bar. The international bar is good too, but i think it is up for sale. But at any of the farang bars you will get a mix of both good happy couples and disasters waiting to happen. I do have a laugh with the lads in Paddys though and most of the guys and galls in there are genuine. Best of luck with the baby on the way, hope everythings goes smoothly .. cheers bravo1 party4.
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Hey Paddyram, never thought you were having a pop. Its good to warn people, I never understand the guys who my wife tells me about the wives having thai boyfriends.
But I think in a lot of cases, these are the same guys who have a wife out in Isaan, but still go to Pattaya for the odd holiday alone.
I've only been to Pattaya twice, both times took the family. But we will never go back, too seedy for me and found the Beach dirty (though I'm told it has been cleaned up).
Anyone know of a good beach spot near Isaan, with cheap accommodation, nice beach and a few restaurants (don't need farang food!)???? ;)......
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The beach is always a half a day drive, but I think Rayong is oke, or a bit further Koh Chang is realy great and relaxed and they have hotels for all kinds of prices. Good luck. love5
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The beach is always a half a day drive, but I think Rayong is OK, or a bit further Koh Chang is really great and relaxed and they have hotels for all kinds of prices. Good luck. love5
pattaya or koh chang.
but you asked for a beach close to Buriram and that is something that does not exist here.
minimum 6 hours driving from any beach I'm afraid. :)
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Hey Paddyram, never thought you were having a pop. Its good to warn people, I never understand the guys who my wife tells me about the wives having thai boyfriends.
But I think in a lot of cases, these are the same guys who have a wife out in Isaan, but still go to Pattaya for the odd holiday alone.
I've only been to Pattaya twice, both times took the family. But we will never go back, too seedy for me and found the Beach dirty (though I'm told it has been cleaned up).
Anyone know of a good beach spot near Isaan, with cheap accommodation, nice beach and a few restaurants (don't need farang food!)???? ;)......
Ya I think you're right about the guys heading to walking street for a break from the wife, ... you get what you give ! I'll admit I met the wife in Pattaya but she was only too glad toi see the back of it, if I ever told her I was heading there for a break .. I think she would break something of mine first !
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I find that visits to Pattaya help you to maintain a sense of perspective.
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I find that visits to Pattaya help you to maintain a sense of perspective.
Please explane?
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The way I see it, just because they are Thai, and may have been on the game when you met them, if you marry them, they are your wife and deserve the same respect. The past is the past.
If you want to have away days in Pattaya.......don't get married!!!
Just my view bravo1 brick1 :)
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I find that visits to Pattaya help you to maintain a sense of perspective.
Please explane?
If an explanation is required then I doubt that the point will be grasped.
Pattaya is not Thailand - at least not the REAL Thailand.
When I lived in a rural part of the UK it was nice, occasionally, to visit the seaside and amusements. It made you realise both what you had and what you were missing.
There is a view that Pattaya is like Disneyland.
Most people would not like to live all the time in Disneyland but are happy to visit the attractions occasionally.
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The way I see it, just because they are Thai, and may have been on the game when you met them, if you marry them, they are your wife and deserve the same respect. The past is the past.
If you want to have away days in Pattaya.......don't get married!!!
Just my view bravo1 brick1 :)
Adam - was your wife 'on the game' when you met ?
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The way I see it, just because they are Thai, and may have been on the game when you met them, if you marry them, they are your wife and deserve the same respect. The past is the past.
If you want to have away days in Pattaya.......don't get married!!!
Just my view bravo1 brick1 :)
Adam - was your wife 'on the game' when you met ?
of course not, probably all ladies in pattaya are 'not same lady bar' and 'not same other ladies' and 'new in pattaya' 'just came from the village to help sister' I can go on and on. :)
all mia farang met their farang because they planned and wanted it to happen, no coincident here and the way until get it is a long way make no mistakes about it.
some success to 'round corners' and change stories to make their men feel better about it if this point is important for their man, I can't really say the sense of this game, you know she is, you also not an angel and have been playing around with other girls so I see it equal at the end of the day. don't you?
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I would never view a Thai working girl negatively.
A scheming thieving bitch who played me off against any other(s) and was only interested in personal gain whilst, at the same time, professing everlasting love for me - is a different story. They are scheming bitches whichever country they come from (and I have more in the UK !).
The Thai working girls have a wonderful perspective. They don't need to go to Pattaya to acquire it. It is inherent in every Isaan village, local karaoke bar, local railway stations, 'Mucky Street' in Buriram etc, etc They understand that they have something that others will pay more. No moralising, no real emotion - a service for a price. There is a certain purity about.
buriramboy is right, we all have history - we have all found our way to Thailand by whichever circuitous route life presented us with.
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Yes mate in Singapore. I'm not ashamed of that and nor is she. At the end of the day she had very few options.
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Yes mate in Singapore. I'm not ashamed of that and nor is she. At the end of the day she had very few options.
Good man ! - nor should you, or her, be ashamed.
We can't all marry virgins from hiso families.
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I find that visits to Pattaya help you to maintain a sense of perspective.
Please explane?
If an explanation is required then I doubt that the point will be grasped.
Pattaya is not Thailand - at least not the REAL Thailand.
When I lived in a rural part of the UK it was nice, occasionally, to visit the seaside and amusements. It made you realise both what you had and what you were missing.
There is a view that Pattaya is like Disneyland.
Most people would not like to live all the time in Disneyland but are happy to visit the attractions occasionally.
I was just curious which perspective you ment, I see it's the right one bravo1
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I find that visits to Pattaya help you to maintain a sense of perspective.
Please explane?
If an explanation is required then I doubt that the point will be grasped.
Pattaya is not Thailand - at least not the REAL Thailand.
When I lived in a rural part of the UK it was nice, occasionally, to visit the seaside and amusements. It made you realise both what you had and what you were missing.
There is a view that Pattaya is like Disneyland.
Most people would not like to live all the time in Disneyland but are happy to visit the attractions occasionally.
I was just curious which perspective you ment, I see it's the right one bravo1
Thanks d B.
I could also have said that if you live in the jungle all the time, all you ever see is trees.
I think it is good to 'dip in' to Pattaya and enjoy whichever attractions appeal to you (I particularly like Central Festival cinema complex).
It is always good to come home punk
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We can't all marry virgins from hiso families.
Never mind marrying one - it would be nice just to meet one, once in a while (and of course spend a bit of quality time with her) It doesn't matter what her family background is!
Now what chance of finding one at the Buriram Bums Bash this coming Wednesday!
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We can't all marry virgins from hiso families.
Never mind marrying one - it would be nice just to meet one, once in a while (and of course spend a bit of quality time with her) It doesn't matter what her family background is!
Now what chance of finding one at the Buriram Bums Bash this coming Wednesday!
I suspect there will be a greater chance of finding rocking horse sh!t.
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Adam
If you out and about in Surin City, Starbeam is a good venue to meet nice people IMHO. Mike and Won the owners are really nice people and will be sure to make you BOTH feel welcome. I recommend the mexican and Pizza foods too! The Thai food is also very good.
Dave
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Thanks Dave
Yeah I have seen this on both this and the Surin forums, might give it a try, but usually don't eat any farang food when I'm home as the wife is a good cook.
However she is pregnant ( baby due in May) and I cant cook for toffee!!! She is teaching the oldest daughter, but all she seems able to cook is deep fried this and deep fried that. So when the baby comes, it will be born in Surin hospital I might be gagging for some decent food hahaha
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The way I see it, just because they are Thai, and may have been on the game when you met them, if you marry them, they are your wife and deserve the same respect. The past is the past.
If you want to have away days in Pattaya.......don't get married!!!
Just my view bravo1 brick1 :)
This was a nice view from you Adam. thumbup
"The way of thinking can make life easier and happier". wildman
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The way I see it, just because they are Thai, and may have been on the game when you met them, if you marry them, they are your wife and deserve the same respect. The past is the past.
If you want to have away days in Pattaya.......don't get married!!!
Just my view bravo1 brick1 :)
Adam - was your wife 'on the game' when you met ?
of course not, probably all ladies in pattaya are 'not same lady bar' and 'not same other ladies' and 'new in pattaya' 'just came from the village to help sister' I can go on and on. :)
all mia farang met their farang because they planned and wanted it to happen, no coincident here and the way until get it is a long way make no mistakes about it.
some success to 'round corners' and change stories to make their men feel better about it if this point is important for their man, I can't really say the sense of this game, you know she is, you also not an angel and have been playing around with other girls so I see it equal at the end of the day. don't you?
'Equal' .. Absolutely I'd go along with that ! . .... and if both parties are sincere and honest on what they are after: a better life for them and their family, a man to treat them better than the last few Thai men, or a beautiful young wife, or even someone to take care of you in your old age, I think it can be a great start to a marriage. Once nobody is fooling themselves about unconditional love or endless pots of money and it is followed by respect and a little patience for cultural differences then there is no reason it shouldn't last. I have to admit I also get a kick of out the looks of 'you lucky b'stard' from my friends sat next to their fat, bitchy (orange fake tan)wives when we go out to the local pub together. I'd say my wife doesn't mind it either.
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I would never view a Thai working girl negatively.
A scheming thieving bitch who played me off against any other(s) and was only interested in personal gain whilst, at the same time, professing everlasting love for me - is a different story. They are scheming bitches whichever country they come from (and I have more in the UK !).
The Thai working girls have a wonderful perspective. They don't need to go to Pattaya to acquire it. It is inherent in every Isaan village, local karaoke bar, local railway stations, 'Mucky Street' in Buriram etc, etc They understand that they have something that others will pay more. No moralising, no real emotion - a service for a price. There is a certain purity about.
buriramboy is right, we all have history - we have all found our way to Thailand by whichever circuitous route life presented us with.
Couldn't agree more
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The way I see it, just because they are Thai, and may have been on the game when you met them, if you marry them, they are your wife and deserve the same respect. The past is the past.
If you want to have away days in Pattaya.......don't get married!!!
Just my view bravo1 brick1 :)
This was a nice view from you Adam. thumbup
"The way of thinking can make life easier and happier". wildman
Thanks Freshy.
I'm not judging people who want the away days, each to their own, I just don't see the point of getting married then going off to fill your boots elsewhere.